Sometimes we find ourselves in a stuck place where we can't figure out our emotions or how to resolve a conflict or what new thing might work with your kid. It feels like everything you try, you hit a roadblock. I have found that those are the moment when we just want a clear path forward, someone to tell us how to get out of the situation we are in. I have found in my work that sometimes the only way out is THROUGH.
What I mean by that is that sometimes we resist and resist and resist when what we need to do is lean in, roll with the resistance we and see if just "rolling with it" produces a different result than all the brainstorming and trying to be understood or attempting to quell your emotions. What if, instead of resisting your emotions, you just leaned in and allowed yourself to feel them and found ways to comfort or soothe yourself? What if, instead of trying to convince your spouse that you're right, you tried to see the ways you might be wrong and they might be right? What if, instead of fighting with your kid for the millionth time about whatever it is that you fight about, you rolled with it and said, "I trust you and how you're feeling and I'm here with you to make the decision that makes the most sense to you."
Obviously, this isn't always possible. But it's another way to think about approaching those situations where you can't figure out how to manage it. Sometimes the only way out is through.
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